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친구들이 돌아오면| The One with Chiamaka Adepegba- A No-Holds-Barred Interview of Mo! (Part 1): Episode 21 (2020)

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친구들이 돌아오면| The One with Chiamaka Adepegba- A No-Holds-Barred Interview of Mo! (Part 1): Episode 21 (2020)

Today’s episode takes a different route from the norm, where I interview a guest and ask all the questions. This time, I have a guest who asks all the questions while I provide the answers.

My guest today is Chiamaka Adepegba. She is a senior pharmacist and independent prescriber who just bagged her master’s degree in advanced prescribing. She is a blogger, YouTuber, and a lover of makeup and fufu. She is married and is based in the UK with her family. Chiamaka and I have known each other since 2004 when we were college roommates. She was the intermediary between my now husband and me in the early days (#thelittleimp).

Based on our friendship history, there is no other person with whom I will rather do this episode. You know a person is your friend when you can discuss not only the easy topics but the difficult ones as well. There was no holding back in the questions Chiamaka asked, I also did not hold back in the sincerity of my response.

In this episode, I answer questions that most people, especially my listeners may have about me and share my struggles too. The conversation is fun, playful, emotional, and most importantly, authentic. It is my desire that others are inspired and encouraged by my story.

Please note that this is the first of a two-part series, so download this episode to get more of Mo!

Best,

Mo!

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감정과 사업| The One with Bimpe Shode – On Emotions in Business Relationships: Episode 20 (2020)

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감정과 사업| The One with Bimpe Shode – On Emotions in Business Relationships: Episode 20 (2020)

The third time they say is a charm! Once again, I have my homegirl, Bimpe, on the show. Bimpe is the type of friend you want to have in your corner – level-headed, stays on course, emotionally mature, and the one you can first expose yourself to, thereby saving yourself from public embarrassment and rebuke. We share things in common, including our faith, which forms the foundation of our core values.

In this episode, we discuss the effect of mixing business with emotions referencing my work-relationship experience with my former virtual assistant, which was on the verge of becoming toxic. Reflecting on that relationship, we were able to glean valuable lessons that are not just applicable to business relationships, but relevant to all forms of relationships in general. We capped it up by sharing the virtues we admire about each other, and frankly, she caught me off guard.

There are lots of laughter in this episode as I find it really difficult putting on my “professional suit” around Bimpe. We all certainly need friends like Bimpe in our lives.

Listen to the episode to catch the full gist.

Va-va-voom,

Mo!

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건강한 경계| The One with Olabimpe – On Boundaries: Episode 13 (2020)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 건강한 경계| The One with Olabimpe – On Boundaries: Episode 13 (2020)

Let's talk boundaries! Especially the ones we need to have with friends, families, around sex, money, as well as with ourselves. Just as I had to learn how to navigate grief, setting boundaries has been an enormous learning curve for me. But indeed, there have been gains in the learning, and I have this book by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life to thank for getting me started. I have since been encouraged to stand up for myself and also rethink the seductive lure of "loving relationships" that often drain the life out of me and often leave me with the feeling of resentment. Here's the hard truth, to experience deep and authentic connection, you need honesty! And setting boundaries in one way to get started.

So to do justice to this topic, I brought back an old friend who also happens to be very wise – Olabimpe – back to the show. It's an episode infused with mirth and abundant examples of potential boundary issues including how to avoid being a pushover at work amid work politics, or a dormant Nancy in a relationship with a s/o, inlaw, friend, or family member. We also tackled a listener's question involving a dilemma about a house pest, sorry guest, who has overstayed their welcome and has refused to move out.

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그녀의 이야기| The One with Olabimpe – On HerStory: Heartbreaks, Finding Love, and Female Friendships: Episode 23 (2019)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 그녀의 이야기| The One with Olabimpe – On HerStory: Heartbreaks, Finding Love, and Female Friendships: Episode 23 (2019))

 

From his book – The Four Loves, CS Lewis had this to say about friendship. “The ideal climate for friendship exists when a few people are absorbed in some common, but not always necessary interest. Lovers are usually imagined face-to-face, friends are best imagined by side; their eyes ahead on the common interest.”

 

That said, here’s reintroducing my dearest friend – Olabimpe - with whom I am well-pleased. Our common interests being doing God’s will, Jesus and plantains (expect a 7-min full convo on our love for Jirade’s plantains: s/o to my supplier – (Mojirade Bepo of Jirade Diadem (@jiradeventures), and fighting injustices in our little spaces. Bimpe and I met when I was 16 when we both signed up to be a part of a choir for teens and youth ministry (@solid_live). So you can say we go a long way, despite how much I moan about not being good with female friendships.

 

In this episode, you get to hear all about Olabimpe’s story which is a rare opportunity given how private she is. We talked about her being single, a recent heartbreak that almost made her curse the guy out, signs you might be dating a narcissist, how she nursed her broken heart, why she’s still hopeful about love. We also talked about what it takes to be a good friend, the huge fight we had that nearly changed the course of our friendship, as well as conflict resolution tips. If anything, you get to hear two silly friends talk about everything! Yeah, we failed the Bechdel Test a few minutes into the episode.

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미혼이지만| The One with Bibi – On Maximizing the Three S’s - Single, Sent, and Satisfied: Episode 22 (2019)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 미혼이지만| The One with Bibi – On Maximizing the Three S’s - Single, Sent, and Satisfied: Episode 22 (2019)

 

This week’s episode with my guest – Bibi – attempted to answer the following questions surrounding single life: How do you maximize your singleness and joy in a world that wants everyone to be coupled up, by any means necessary? What can the church do to encourage everyone, especially singles, to find their life purpose above and beyond the institution of marriage?  

 

We also explored the many gifts singles have that are envied by the married (especially yours truly). And yes, we also went there – to talking about premarital sex, porn, and masturbation. And finally, I threw a wild question at my guest as to why it seems that single (godly) men aren’t committing to women these days.

 

My guest, who is in her 20s and whom I met on Twitter BTW, Bidemi “Bibi” Babatunde, is a minister of the gospel of Jesus with this central message: “God is not angry with you, He expended all His anger on Jesus.” She is passionate about helping believers grow in their full identity in Christ and drop the cloak of meaningless religiosity. She was the best graduating student of her bible college (The Stand Point Church Refinery) in 2018 and currently lives in the Greater Toronto area where she manages fundraising and communications for a charity that helps children with autism.

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