Mo' Sibyl

내 불안에 대한 모든 것| The One with Mo!’s Anxiety - On Living With Your Own Brain: Episode 27 (2022)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 내 불안에 대한 모든 것| The One with Mo!’s Anxiety - On Living With Your Own Brain: Episode 27 (2022)

In this episode, Ayomide interviewed me (again), but from the perspective of my relationship with anxiety. We talked about how I have been struggling with anxiety and the relationship between my anxiety and my parents. For context, my mum had me at 21, before marriage, and she was from a typical Christian home. I have struggled with anxiety as far back as I can remember—I cannot remember any time I wasn’t. Ayomide went through my experiences with me, and we discussed how I could be better going forward, especially in light of how I view myself and rub off on my daughter.

Of course, this is my own story, and your mileage may vary. Still, I have often found the stories of others helpful. Hopefully, you’ll find something to take away from my stories of living with anxiety, handling complicated relationships and cases, dealing with childhood trauma and its later effects, and coming out positive.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 관계의 동력 역학| The One With The Two - On Power Dynamics In Relationships: Episode 16 (2022)

In this episode, Ayomide and I talked about power dynamics in relationships and the forms they may occur. People often hesitate to talk about power dynamics in relationships–many perceive power as negative or manipulative. But power can be useful–even useful–for both parties in a relationship and can come in many forms: a friend who helped bring you out of a tough season, a teacher who helped form the values that have shaped you, or a friend you admire and who gives you good advice. But simply not talking about power makes it easier to be abused in relationships.

What exactly is power, and how does or should it affect relationships? What forms does the power take? How do we ensure we are using it for the good of others and just ourselves? When do power dynamics go bad in relationships? What do you do when you feel intimidated? This episode addresses all of these and more.

Listen to the full episode here.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Poojee

This is one episode you should not miss as it features my very own Poojee!

In this episode, Poojee aka Omonike (my mother gave her this name, and it means ‘a child to be cherished’ in Yoruba – A Nigerian language) and I gush shamelessly about the love we have for each other. Pu, as I love to call her, and I went to grad school together in Austin, and she now lives in London. If you’re my friend on Facebook, you would have seen posts of me her and together. In this episode, we explored Poo’s story: growing up (female) in India; dropping out of grad school; how she coped with managing those expectations and from others too; our friendship and its oddities; and why we will not be breaking up anytime soon.

Poo is about one of the very few friends I chased (I am usually the one being chased), and I explain why this was so and why I would shamelessly do it over and over again. Poo is as geeky and nerdy as I am and loves Korean drama too. We also both share a mutual disdain for Apple® products. Suffice to say, our friendship will irretrievably break if either one of us cheats on the other by taking a bite from any of the already-bitten Apple products that are Mac and all of its i-Friends.

TL; DR: It’s a story of an odd love, friendship, and sisterhood between two most unlikely people who share different beliefs on religion (she is Hindu, I am Christian) and food (she eats rabbit food (aka vegetarian), and I eat rabbits (aka non-vegetarian), and even personalities (she’s introvertish, and I am hella extravertish, yup it’s a word!). How we make it work and how a little understanding and radical acceptance is needed in cross-cultural friendships. It’s also a story of resilience, dealing with the fear of failure, and keeping things moving.